Truth is: most people have no clue what coaching is. More exactly, they have “heard of” and they “think that” but it’s a bit of a guess most of the time… I have gathered below affirmations I hear regularly about coaching so I could give you my view on it- specially in case you don’t feel comfortable asking me directly 😉
1- If I need coaching it means that something is wrong with me: Nothing is wrong with you, coaching is not there to fix you anyway: you have a coach because you want to move on with your life and achieve goals. Classy!
2- Coaching is expensive: Actually, there’s coaching at pretty much any price. If you’re looking for a coach in Europe vs in the US or a life coach vs a business coach, then we are talking factor 1 to 100 in term of hourly price. Also, depending on regions, on the coach experience, the city, the offer etc, an hour of life coaching can go from about 30€ to about 500€- but most coaches will stay under 100€/hour. Now, how much your goal is worth to you? What would you be ready to put on the table to get your dream to come true (or your nightmare to end)? Everyone’s answer is different, but I bet it’s something around “priceless” so I let you do your own math and conclude.
3- Coaching is a scam: Coaching is very real and powerful but you won’t know until you do 2 things: 1- You try 2- You try seriously. Coaching is no magic! You will need to be ready to show up, to take actions, be honest, face questions you never asked yourself before etc. If not, over time, every great coach will probably suggest a more suitable option for you- including terminating your coaching relationship.
4- I don’t want to lie on a couch: Cool, cause that doesn’t happen in a coaching session (I think you mix up with psychotherapy maybe…?). Some sessions can happen in a café or this kind of warm place: you will feel so eased that sometimes you will wonder if you’re not catching up with an old friend. Better even: most sessions are happening online, so you will be able to be nice and cosy from your own couch (and the position you have in there is up to you).
5- I don’t have time: Let’s be honest here: we all know the true version of this sentence is actually “I don’t make time”. Should I really remind you about those hours lost scrolling on social media…? (and don’t get me started on how gratifying this is…). With online coaching, you literally just need an hour of your time for yourself- no traffic jam, no rush after work, no need for babysitter, you can even do it from a meeting room at work during your lunch break!
6- I’m not sure I’m ready: Are you motivated? Are you tired of not taking actions? Are you at the point that not changing is not an option any longer? Good, then you are ready.
7- I am not ready to invest in it financially: Fair enough! Just a quick question: who is the most important person in your life? I bet I get a lot of husband/wife/children/parents answer there. Well sorry, but it’s all wrong! It is YOU. Of course, it’s you: how can you be a good spouse/parent/child if you are miserable or frustrated…? Put your oxygen mask first and THEN you can help anyone you want. Plus I bet that if one of your beloved ones needed the same thing, you will beg me to help him/her right now. So let me ask you again: do you think it’s worth investing in you?
8- Coaching is for Americans! Hum…yes indeed, coaching is embedded in American culture for longer than us, partially because it started there but also because their culture celebrates the importance of achievement and success in a bigger proportion than ours. Does it mean that we have to deprive ourselves of a great tool to thrive just because of that? I don’t think so…
9- I don’t think I’m a great candidate for coaching: Do you want to take action or not? That’s all you need to know. If yes, coaching IS for you. If not, then it’s probably not the right time yet! Maybe you could start opening your horizon with one of those books https://marieelizalde.com/library/ and contact me again when you are ready.
10- I don’t think me and you are a good fit: Maybe, maybe not. Why don’t we have a chat and see what happens? If the chemistry is there, brilliant, let’s get some work done! If not, there are plenty of great coaches out there, with a full range of different personalities and styles, I’m sure you will find someone else who suits you better…You’re missing an opportunity for a lot of fun though 😉
11- The bonus question: you talk about goals and change and all of that but I still don’t know what coaching is exactly: Fair point! Think about it as a meaningful conversation with someone you trust, that allows you to see things differently and take actions on what you want to change in your life. That’s it, nothing more. Now if you want more details about the technique, the frame etc, you can always click here and check what the ICF says about it. But really: when you turn on the light at home, do you wonder about how the cables bring power to your house, the power plant creates that energy, how thanks to Thomas Edison who invented the bulb…? No. You just focus on the result and enjoy the clarity of your cosy home. Then why don’t you do the same with coaching…?